A student came down to my office very upset one morning. She was shaking and crying and was very upset about some personal issues going on in her life. She said she did not need to talk, but just needed a safe space to decompress. In my office, I have a “comfy chair” with a weighted pad, fluffy pillow, and stuffed animal. I also have bubble jars and other forms of fidgets for students to utilize. After about 10-15 minutes in the chair, along with some deep breathing, the student was ok to return to class. The interventions had worked. She just needed some time and a safe quiet space which I was fortunately able to provide for her.
As a 20-year School Counselor veteran, I have worked with many students who have experienced a lot of trauma. In fact, many of our students have experienced some sort of stress or trauma in their lives before the age of 18. Let us start with some background and definitions on the topic of trauma.
According to the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), “individual trauma results from an EVENT, series of events, or set of circumstances that is EXPERIENCED by an individual as physically or emotionally harmful or life threatening and that has a lasting adverse EFFECT on the individual’s functioning and mental, physical, social, emotional or spiritual well being.”
So, how can we as educators help these students who have lived these traumatic events, even some living them daily?
Trauma-Informed Education
First, we need to recognize that trauma-informed is something we BECOME, (ATN, 2024). And we also need to learn how to recognize and build relationships with ALL students. So what is trauma-informed education?
According to Edutopia, “Trauma-informed education includes examining the influence and impact of ACES on students in our schools on factors such as racism (explicit, implicit, and systematic; and microaggressions) as well as poverty, peer victimization, community violence, and bullying. Being trauma-informed is a mindset with which educators approach all children.
Research indicates that strong, stable, and nurturing relationships foster a feeling of belonging that is essential for all students but is absolutely imperative for healing with students who have experienced trauma.”
The Attachment and Trauma Network, Inc has some building blocks that we can use to build safe relationships with these students who have experienced trauma:
Building Blocks on Building Safe Relationships with Kids:
- Start with trust
- Be honest
- Keep promises
- Transparency
- Vulnerability-be vulnerable, but we must not overshare
- Keep professional boundaries
- Being real about what you are doing and why
- Consistency is key
- Clear communication
- Concern for their well-being
- Clear expectations even when we tell them something they don’t want to hear.
- Understanding cultural issues-we are working with kids from all facets of life
- Could be an obstacle that must be addressed
- Involve others if needed
- Reciprocity
- Relationships are reciprocal
- Make space for children to give back
- They want you to know when they feel a connection
- Could be a smile, a hug, could take more time with older children.
- They want you to know when they feel a connection

As educators, we also have to recognize when our students are regulated vs dysregulated. But what do these two words mean?
- Regulated, also known as emotional regulation, is the ability to exert control over one’s emotional state (ATN, 2024).
- Dysregulation is when a person’s nervous system is overwhelmed and their ability to manage and tolerate overwhelming emotions is compromised because the brain’s cognitive state and body’s emotional state are out of sync due to either real or perceived threat (ATN, 2024).
To wrap things up, here are some classroom strategies from the Attachment and Trauma Network, Inc to help you when a child is regulated vs. dysregulated:
When a child is REGULATED:
- Mindfulness activities
- Dr. Dan Siegel’s Name It to Tame It: If your upstairs (regulated) brain is able to name it and acknowledge it, the act of doing that “tames” the intensity of the feeling and helps us to make sense of it too.
- Creative expressions: Journaling, poetry, creating/writing music
- Use problem-solving: how can you teach your students to problem solve?
When a child is DYSREGULATED:
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- Movement and rhythm take a quick walk. Singing, swaying, humming snapping fingers
- Breathing exercises: belly breathing, count breathing
- Sensory engagement: find out if there is something they use to calm their senses.
- Relieving hunger or thirst: sometimes they are just hungry or thirsty. I always keep snacks in my office
- Grounding techniques:
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- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1
- Name 5 things in the room that you can see
- Name 4 things you can feel
- Name 3 things you can hear
- Name 2 things you can smell
- Name 1 thing you can taste
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1
- Simple Play: with younger kids and even older kids like to color (talk with them while coloring)
- Other ideas: putting hands or face in cold water/washcloth, putting candy in your mouth like cinnamon or mints, squishing toys/fidgets, weighted blankets, hugs (when appropriate).
Another great resource to support student wellness is this list provided by Counselor Connect.
Once again, this is just the tip of the iceberg. There are so many other components that fall under the topic of Trauma Informed Education. These include how the brain works, different types of stress and trauma, co-regulation, top down and bottom up processing of the brain, the window of stress tolerance, fight or flight, and more…
Some notable names in the topic of trauma are Dr. Lori DeSautels, Heather Forbes, Robyn Gobbel, Dr. Dan Siegel, and even more. Trauma-informed education is such a popular topic, and there is so much more knowledge available to us. If you search the names listed above, you will find a plethora of good evidence-based information to help you on your journey to learn more about trauma-informed education.
Author’s contact information:
Allison Makowski, School Counselor
amakowski@elkhart.k12.in.us
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